There have been a few times in my life when I have been so internally uncomfortable that I have rapidly left an event without much explanation.
I can recall a few awkward parties and family gatherings when my anxiety grew so enormous that I just had to leave.
Generally, I don’t enjoy trying to qualify my experience with other humans. Therefore, I like to utilize an Irish goodbye as I sneak out the door without saying a word. Unfortunately, it turns out that this isn’t something you can get away with when you are dating somebody. The other week I went to stay with my new boyfriend for the first time… And found myself so uncomfortable with the environment of his house that I had to leave abruptly. When I first walked into his place I noticed that the air temperature was a bit chilly for me. I thought that I would adjust to his thermostat settings with time so I didn’t make a big deal over the air temperature at first. Surely, my body would adjust to his lower indoor air temperature control settings and we could proceed with our planned activities. However, the longer I stayed at his place the colder the indoor air seemed to be. I couldn’t tell if he even had his furnace running because the indoor climate was so uncomfortable. I didn’t want to question his thermostat programming or his indoor air temperature preferences, so I just kept my mouth shut. After a few hours of shivering in his place, I couldn’t take it anymore. I rapidly left for the comfort of my own heating and cooling system at home. I’ve got to tell you, I’m not sure if I have a boyfriend anymore… But at least I am enjoying my own furnace again.